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A way to get your California divorce without going to court

Whether you are going through a divorce or are modifying a prior divorce agreement on a custody or support matter, you can set aside hostility and agree on key points through the structured process of mediation. The predictability of mediation reduces the stress of legal conflicts and puts important decisions in your hands, rather than in the court’s power.

Arlene Kostant recognizes how difficult family transitions can be and understands the legal, emotional and financial aspects of separation and divorce. She helps couples identify and mutually agree upon practical solutions in a supportive environment.

As an experienced mediator, Arlene can successfully guide you through the mediation process. When acting as a mediator, she is neutral and does not impose solutions or take sides. She helps both parties to identify and discuss their needs and to explore available options. When she is a consulting attorney in mediation, she supports the process and the client’s desire to reach an agreement that works for him or her. In mediation, a common goal is to arrive at a workable agreement that both parties create together to meet their family’s needs and concerns. The mediation process can also promote a positive new outlook for the future.

The benefits to using mediation during a divorce

The divorcing spouses make the decisions in the mediation process. Issues discussed in mediation may include:

  • Distribution of property and assets

  • Spousal support or alimony

  • Child support

  • Parenting concerns and plans

  • Parenting plans including child custody and access (whether pursuant to divorce or not)

  • Resolution of debt issues

The end result is an agreement

The end result of the mediation process is a divorce agreement between you and your spouse, outlining the future of your lives apart while addressing all the relevant issues such as parenting and support of the children, division of property, spousal support (alimony) and more. The divorce agreement is a legally binding document mutually arrived at by both parties.

Arlene Kostant helps couples reach a final divorce agreement respectfully and in a timely manner. She can assist in submitting your agreement to the courts for final approval.

Mediation for other agreements

Mediation is a useful tool for more than just divorce dispute resolution. Couples in an anticipated or ongoing relationship who are looking to amicably and respectfully create a set of rules together to govern that relationship are also well served by Mediation. These sets of rules are known as Premarital, Postmarital or Cohabitation Agreements.

For more information

If you are interested in more information how mediation can assist you, please refer to

Resolving your family law problems amicably

For an experienced mediator to assist with your divorce or custody dispute, please call me at 415-433-2863 or contact me online to schedule an appointment.